Posted by: Carlotta | July 24, 2008

CNN’s Coverage on Black America - Why?

CNN’s Soledad O’Brien covers a special report call Black in America all this week. Covering topics about the Black family, woman and man, CNN attempts to cover the problems facing Black Americans today and what people are doing about it.

Racism isn’t the primary problem!

I have a very big problem with this special. With so much emphasis on the color of one’s skin, CNN is overlooking the fact that the bulk of the problems are not racial, but spiritual. Of course, I don’t expect CNN to come from that angle, but the report is useless if problems are not examined in the context of what makes people do the things that they do! Single-parenthood, divorce, incarceration, drug use, women being single and alone are more because of issues in not having a right relationship with God. Even in the case of the biracial couple and their children where the husband and wife were having issues raising the child because the wife wants to bring “black culture” into the picture - that’s also spiritual! Just let your kids be kids and raise them up as the God would want parents to raise their children - under His principles!

I’m even more bothered by the fact that if we are to ever strive towards a nation of racial equality, then why do we keep putting emphasis BACK on the color of our skin? Racism is a color issue, but this show wasn’t so much about racism as it was about problems within the Black family period. Although at times it seems as if CNN tried hard at times to blame black problems on whites, such as the incarceration of black men and their high percentages and media focus. If black men would do the things to stay out of jail, then there be very little to talk about! Again, It has very little to do with our color but how we are living our lives!

SEX is the problem!

Specifically the problem of sexual immorality I feel is the major problem within the American culture PERIOD! It is a problem rampant nationwide, not just within the black family. If sexual immorality is addressed alone and if people took steps to wipe out immorality then how many of our problems would be solved? How many would still be single parents if they weren’t having sex resulting in illegitimate babies? How many children would be stuck in poverty because only one parent was taking care of them? How many of those children would be off the streets if they had dads at home disciplining them? How many would be affected with Aids if not practicing sex outside of marriage? How many marriages would still be intact if no one cheated on their spouses? Lack of sexual responsibility found within the confines of commitment in marriage is the biggest problem facing MOST Americans today!

Insulting!

AND just how would we feel as Black Americans if a special was done on “White” in America? Why is it even necessary? This idea of addressing of po’ little black folks as if we need different solutions than whites is insulting. Let’s address the problems of each person, then go about solving them!

Okay, I may be a little hard on CNN because after all, the reporter Soledad O’Brien can relate to a lot of the issues being discussed being a biracial woman. Perhaps she’s very passionate about gathering information that she feels would help Black Americans. But it’s not helping. If nothing else, it’s pouring salt into the wounds without any bandages to stop the bleeding.

Solution: Know God and Follow after HIM!

Real problems require real solutions and it must start with the individual - an individual’s relationship with God through His Son Jesus Christ!

Thank you CNN for giving me something to rant about!

Go to CNN here: Black In America

Responses

Well said, Carlotta. The satanic sexual revolution is at the root of all of this. He sought to break down the family and helped us bring about the myth of consequence-free sex, adultery, divorce and more. Then when the families broke down the liberals can say that we’re no better than gay couples, so why not let them have kids. And on and on.

I grieve for those kids without two loving parents. They are so much more likely to degenerate further, regardless of their skin color.

But there is hope in Christ!

AMEN Neil!

I raised five children without their father following my divorce. It was extremely painful seeing the kids without their father and the emotional trauma that my kids have experienced has been something I wouldn’t wish another parent to go through!

It helped sending my two elder sons to their father after they entered high school, and keeping the girls and my youngest son with me. I tried to send him too, but by that time, father wasn’t ready to keep him.

By the grace of God my kids have survived and are succeeding in life, but not without their share of emotional scars. No telling how that’s going to affect them and their future families, but I’m praying they’ll too make it with God’s help!

I have hope for your children, Carlotta, because of where your focus is and how that must have impacted them.

My best friend was abandoned by his dad, but he beat the cycle. He is a terrific husband and father. It can be done, though the odds are great.

From reading other blogs about this programming I can tell I was going to scream. I talked with one of my friends that has cable. I was thinking about asking her to record the program. She has not heard about it. When I mentioned to her the names of the two programs on Wednesday and Thursday I guess she could tell that my blood pressure was raising. She calmly said that since you know you are going to get mad why bother. I said ‘you’re right’ and we went on to talk about another topic.

I started tuning out to madness like this in the early 80s when The Cosby Show came on the air. I was not watching it much because I was in grad school. I think I missed the first two or three seasons. However I heard about it from friends of mine. I will never forget how Jesse Jackson came against the program because ‘black people do not live like that’. I thought what a fool. That was the end of listening to any of them. Of course as I grew older I realized that the vast majority of social problems have as it root SIN. SIN is not race specific. It just so happens that the media has a love affair with reporting the mess of black people.

We need God.

Neil: Thank you and that hope is all I have for my children’s future, which I pray constantly for. I know with Christ, all things are possible!

I also have seen many from single-parent family homes who have succeeded against the odds and hopefully, mine will be in that number too!

Pamela: Your screaming and me throwing houseshoes at the TV set. I would get rid of cable if I wasn’t such a sports fan. I’m crazy about the Chargers and Lakers, and occasionally see my own sons on TV playing basketball. (Two were high school stars and the other a college star who is now heading toward his third year in European professional ball). And oh yes, I am a news junkie as well.

But some folks just don’t get it and want to keep race in the spotlight by constantly talking about it! The bottom line is like you said - we all need God!

You are a Lakers fan as well? Wow, this blog keeps getting better and better ;-).

I’m in denial over the latest series, but it was fun to revisit the old 80’s teams. I watched a repeat of game 6 of the 1985 championship and loved it. I think that was my all-time favorite sports moment, watching Kareem redeem himself and get the MVP while beating Boston on their home floor.

OT:

LOL! I have me a new Lakers Buddy! YES!

Gosh Neil, the 80’s was my favorite time of being a basketball fan. To this day, I grimace whenever I hear a former Boston’s player’s name mentioned for anything - I “hated” them that much!

I was a bit bummed out with that last series as well, but I have much hope for their future! I just read that they locked up Sasha Vujacic which I was a little worried about him leaving for Europe. And I will miss Rony Turiaf. He and my son (played at Pepperdine) were rivals in their college days. Gonzaga knows my son well as he gave them plenty of headaches, but Rony was always gracious, even giving me a hug after some of their games.

I love me some Lakers and my youngest son loves him some Koby. My youngest son has at time been nicked named little Koby because of the way he plays, although he’s almost hitting 6′6, Koby’s height. He’s still little compared to his older brother who’s 6′9 and 230 lbs!

But I do love the game and yes, always feel free to interject anything about my favorite sports teams!

Yes, I’m really interested to see how they play next year. If they are all healthy they should be truly impressive.

You have raised some seriously talented basketball players! How cool that your son played against Rony.

Somehow I ended up raising ballerinas - not sure how that happened!

Neil, I’m a “dance mom” too! I saw your posts about your beautiful daughters (and wife) and it made me think of mine.

My eldest daughter is a contemporary dancer on her dance team in college, and my youngest daughter does dance crew hip hop (the clean kind). So if I’m not watching basketball games, I was taking the girls back and forth to their dance practices and shows!

Ballerina is the most technical and beautiful of all dances and I’m still amazed whenever I see a dancer on their tippy toes! Both of my girls love ballerina, but they’ve always felt they were too tall and big to graciously do it. (5′7 and 6′0).

Where their brothers excelled in sports, my girls excelled in the academics and dance.

God bless our children and their gifts!

Excellent post Carlotta. I found the Black in America series to be rather embarrassing. I was disgusted with people on a panel the first night it was on a week ago from last Saturday, downplaying never been married single motherhood. You nailed it when you said the problem is sexual immorality.

I was going to blog big time on this CNN program, but now I will do a couple of paragraphs and link to you. It will be up later this evening or early tomorrow morning. Racism does continue in this country, but it is not the big problem for blacks today. You are so right: the solution to big problems in the black community starts with individuals having a relationship with God through His Son Jesus Christ.

Thanks Bev!

It’s amazing that more isn’t talked about sexual immorality as a huge cause of social ills. I know since the sexual revolution of the 60’s, it’s now almost TABOO to say that abstaining from sex is the RIGHT thing to do!

Too many parents are raising their children that it’s okay to have sex, and with that we have borne a generation or two of sex-abstaining immune children and adults.

It’s crazy with all of the useless and wasteful solutions of this problem - like more money to government sponsored abstinence programs. Why spend oodles of money in schools teaching abstinence when you aren’t allowed to teach WHY they should abstain? (Because God says so!)

That’s why I’m for leaving abstinence teaching for homes - because schools aren’t helping anything anyways! At least we can save precious tax dollars.

I’m still in rant mode over this CNN story!

I think I would also add that it may not just be parents saying that it is okay to have sex. I know of parents that want to teach them about abstinence but won’t because they are not ready for their children to ask them about their sexual history. I remember one of my pastors talking about how hard it was to talk with his daughter about abstaining from sex and drinking when he did it as a youth.

I am not a parent but I would think that parents could use their experiences as an object lesson and share why they would not advise it for their kids. I know some parents that have done that not wanting to see their children experience what they did. My mom’s pastor is one of them. He is pretty open about how he was ‘a-whoring’ as he puts it before he became a Christian. He also drank, smoked weed and did a little cocaine. He lived celebate for over three years before marrying his wife. I think they have been married 20 years. I know their twins are in their 2nd or 3rd year in college now. They are doing what they can. However they take the risk of the kids throwing their mess back in their faces. I unfortunately have seen that happen with friends as well.

“I remember one of my pastors talking about how hard it was to talk with his daughter about abstaining from sex and drinking when he did it as a youth.”

Satan’s lies again. He wants us to think it is hypocritical to hold them to higher standards than we achieved. But hypocrisy is if I abuse alcohol today and tell my kids not to, for example.

You hit on a good point, Pamela. I’ve got Christian friends who have made similar satements as that pastor.

Excellent point Pamela! I had shared in my “No Condom No Pills” posts that I was given permission to ask for birth control when I felt the “urge” to have sex with my boyfriend. Well, I did just that and was sexually active at the age of 15. By the time I entered college as an 18 year old, all that meant was sexual freedom like crazy! I was quite promiscuous and shared with my children that my promiscuity and lack of not knowing about real relationships is what got me on the wrong foot with their father. Either we would have never married, or with counseling and biblical guidance we would have abstain from sex and grow in our friendship with each other before getting married and having them.

Fortunately for me, I stayed on the pill and didn’t get pregnant. I could have easily been a mother with a bunch of kids from different fathers and not even married! But emotionally and spiritually I was just as lost.

Yes, condoms and pills are necessary - if you are going to be disobedient and sexually active outside of marriage! As a result of that experience and knowing that having “the pill” just made me engage in sex even more freely, I had a no pill no condom rule in raising my children to help them be even more alert in not having sex. My father confused me giving me permission to have the pill but getting upset when I was actually decided to become sexually active.

I’ve shared with my children my experiences and never once did they say, “well, YOU did it, why can’t WE?” Primarily not because they didn’t want to cross me, but because they knew that the bible said it’s wrong! That’s the added assurance to install into our children’s conscious that having sex is wrong - because God said it is, not because of your imperfect parents said so. If it weren’t for God’s word, the kids really wouldn’t respect what I would say about sex!

Neil, if more people just trusted God’s word being planted in their children, then more and more would be less afraid of sharing their past, as I was. In fact by sharing my past, they also learned a lesson in God’s forgiveness and wiping His memory of our past sins.

Now we just need to convince parents that it’s okay to let them see our imperfections, so that THEY can be made more perfect in Christ!

Addendum: And yes Neil, good point about the hypocrisy. In order for any of our messages to our kids to be effective, hypocrisy must not be a part of our lives! I imagine my messages of sexual fidelity would have ringed confusing to them if I had men running in and out of my place as a single parent! Their rebellion would have been understandable, although not justifiable.

Calotta I didnt even watch this. Everytime these liberal MSMs cover race its always some sham to stir up racial hatred.

Youre right the biggest problem Black America has is sin and rebellion against God. Sin enslaves you, Christ frees you.

btw, you did a great job here dissecting the Soledad’s unenlightened perspective.

Thanks Pastor DL and AMEN to what you said about our biggest problem - SIN AND REBELLION against GOD!

You know how frustrating it is to see this on TV, and not really hear anyone give sound solutions at all! TD Jakes was their “representative” preacher, and the best he could come up with was — I don’t remember. But of course, he said NOTHING at all about sin. We all know he’s a weak preacher and the worse example that CNN could of used.

I will force myself not watch broadcasts like this one in the future!

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